New Year, Same Amazing You

by Lisa Camilleri @HappierHead

Well, here we are in 2021. I think it's safe to say that for the vast majority of the human race, 2020 was not the year we were expecting. In many ways, I would have been quite happy to hide my head under my duvet and sleep the new year in. However, on this occasion I chose to stay up till the early hours just to ensure it really did leave us….and kick it up the bottom on the way out!

The new year naturally makes us think about the future, namely what we want to change or do better at. Quite often, the resolutions we make at new year leave us feeling pressured and guilty when we eventually slip up.

 

For those reasons alone, I have not made any resolutions for the past five years. In fact, even then, the last engagement I had with ‘new year's eve traditions’ was when I spent an evening with Russian friends who asked us all to write down our wishes and then at midnight burn the paper and watch it float up into the sky. A lovely tradition (though I think the true version includes drinking the ashes!) and something I’d quite like to do again with friends one day.

However, regardless of the fear of failure and feelings of guilt, the new year does bring with it a natural ‘restart’. It is a time where we can reflect on the year gone by and all its challenges, and put behind us any of the things we perhaps have not done the way we intended. It is the ideal time for drawing a line under our past and moving forward with new positivity.

This year I have taken a different angle. It’s taken me a few weeks to decide to really think about this but I won’t beat myself up for not having them ready from 1st January. I’m usually one that likes to say, ‘yes’ as much as possible. Yes to new adventures. Yes to innovative projects. Yes to requests for help.

But if 2020 taught me anything, it would be that sometimes for your own peace of mind and your personal wellbeing, it’s actually okay to say ‘no’ or ‘don’t.

So without any intention of being negative here are my three resolutions for 2021:

  1. Don’t put your own mental health at risk and say ‘yes’ to things when you really mean ‘no’.

  2. Don’t take criticism from people you wouldn’t ask for advice.

  3. Don’t let someone else’s bad opinion of you become your own opinion of you.

I’m sure there are many many more ‘don’ts’ that we should pay heed to.

I would love to hear your own resolutions along these lines so please do leave me a message to share.

Be confident that you are already enough.

You do not need to do more than what you are already doing. You do not need to be better than you already are. We are all human and human means experiencing the extremes of things. We can be good, bad, happy, sad, motivated, lazy, kind, selfish and many more things all at the same time. This year for the first time, I’m okay with that.

New Year

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